This month we got a little bit old school with the movie that I chose. It's movie that I somehow missed when it first came out (and might be glad that I did).
The movie stars Zac Efron, and the late, great Matthew Perry, 17 Again.
Mike had to grow up a little too fast when he was young. He was on his way to a basketball scholarship, graduation, and had the rest of his life ahead of him. Until he finds out that his girlfriend is pregnant and she give it all up at 17 to be a dad, husband, and had a different life than what he had planned. Now, in his late 30s, he is on his way to a divorce, his kids are not close to him, and he isn't very happy. That all changes when he is transformed back to the age of 17, and gets a chance to "redo his life". However, when he try to redo his life, he learns a lot about his wife, his kids, and himself that ultimately give his a chance to start over where he is now rather than when he thought he lost it all.
This was not the best movie I have seen. Some of it didn't make sense, and really wasn't that great. It had a lot of great stars, but just missed the mark a little bit.
However, I said last month that showing up was part of a bigger umbrella of a different topic that I wanted to talk about. That bigger topic is honoring your commitments.
Showing up is one way to honor your commitments, but there are lots of other ways to honor commitments.
One of the things that Mike has a problem with in his adult life is that he start projects and doesn't finish them. He become complacent, and just blames everything on what he missed out on rather than make the best of where he is at right now.
Honoring your commitments is one of the hardest things to do. It's hard because it's constantly pulling you to do things that might have sounded great in the moment, but you don't feel like doing it. Promising something, and just not doing anything to making it happen. It's doing the things that you say you are going to do weather or not anyone else is paying attention to the fact that you are doing them.
When I was 17-18 years old, my Youth Pastor gave a sermon that included Horning your commitments, and its was something that I really wanted to be known for. I wanted to the someone who was reliable, and trustworthy, and was always going to be there when I said I was going to be there. I wanted to be someone who as known more for being selfless, and helpful. The older I get the more I see where other people do not do or honor what they comes out of their mouths. There are people in my life that I love dearly, but when they say that they are going to be where they said they would be, they don't come. They bail, or say they forgot. They will do and say anything so that they don't look like the bad guy for now showing up, or doing what they said that they were going to do.
I have also found that being someone that honors their commitments that when things go wrong, or an emergency happens (because life) that things might be frustrating, but people know that I am telling the truth when I fail to make it where I said I was going to be. I have enough of good record from several people that they know if something happens I am truthful as to why I can't be there.
I will say that this may not sound like it's ground shaking knowledge to have, but it really does change your life, and your perspective when you become someone who Honors Their Commitments.